Perimenopause and Anxiety: Untangling What’s Hormonal, What’s Situational, and What’s Both

Is This Anxiety, or Is This Perimenopause?”

This question comes up constantly in my work, and I want to say clearly upfront: I’m not a doctor, and I can’t diagnose either one. But I can help you think through the pattern, because the honest answer for most women is: it’s often both, tangled together in a way that’s genuinely hard to separate on your own.

How Hormones Can Drive Anxiety

Estrogen and progesterone don’t just regulate your cycle; they interact directly with neurotransmitters like Serotonin and GABA, chemicals closely tied to mood and calm. As those hormones fluctuate unpredictably during perimenopause, some women experience anxiety that feels like it’s arrived out of nowhere, with no clear external trigger. It can show up as a racing heart at 3 AM, a persistent sense of dread, or irritability that feels disproportionate to whatever set it off. If this sounds new, or noticeably different from how you’ve experienced anxiety in the past, hormonal fluctuation is worth putting on your radar.

How Situational Stress Layers on Top

At the same time, perimenopause often lands in a genuinely demanding season of life: aging parents, kids leaving or not leaving home, career pressure, relationship shifts, and a body that’s simultaneously changing in ways that feel unfamiliar. Real stressors deserve real acknowledgment. It would be inaccurate, and honestly a little dismissive, to wave away every hard emotion during this season as “just hormones”. Your circumstances are allowed to be genuinely difficult, independent of what your hormones are doing.

A Simple Way to Start Untangling It

You don’t need a perfect answer to start getting support, but a few questions can help you and your provider see the pattern more clearly: Does the anxiety track with your cycle, worse in certain weeks and better in others? Does it show up even on days when nothing stressful is happening? Has anything shifted physically alongside it - sleep, hot flashes, cycle changes? Tracking these patterns for a few weeks, even informally in a notes app, gives you something concrete to bring to a medical provider instead of a vague “I’ve just felt off”.

You Don’t Have to Solve This Alone

Whether your anxiety turns out to be mostly hormonal, mostly situational, or genuinely both, the support looks similar at first: nervous system reset tools, a place to be heard without judgment, and help making sense of what you’re experiencing. That’s exactly what Menopause Coaching Support and Breathwork sessions are designed for, alongside, not instead of, the medical care your provider can offer. You don’t have to have this figured out before you reach out. That’s what the Discovery Call is for.

Breathwork 101: A Beginner’s Guide To Finding The Right Practice For Your Nervous System

Breathwork Doesn’t Have to Be Intense Work

When people hear “breathwork”, they often picture something intense: crying on a mat, dramatic emotional release, maybe even a little frightening. That version exists, but it’s one small slice of a much bigger picture. Most of the breathwork I use with clients, especially in a first session, is quiet, simple, and almost boring in the best possible way. That’s by design.

Start Here: Belly Breathing

If you try nothing else from this post, try this. Sit or lie down comfortably. Put one hand on your chest and one on your belly. Inhale slowly through your nose for a count of four, letting your belly rise more than your chest. Exhale through your mouth for a count of six, letting the exhale be longer than the inhale. That’s it. This single pattern, sometimes called diaphragmatic or belly breathing, is one of the fastest ways to signal safety to your nervous system, and it’s appropriate for nearly everyone, with almost no risk.

Matching The Practice To The Need

Different breathwork styles do different things, and part of what I help clients with is matching the practice to what they’re actually feeling, rather than reaching for whatever’s trending. If you’re anxious or can’t settle, a slow, steady rhythm of about five to six breaths per minute, sometimes called coherent or resonant breathing, tends to be more effective than trying to force calm through willpower alone. If your mind won’t stop racing at bedtime, a soft humming exhale (bee breath or Bhramari) can be a surprisingly effective closing practice. If you’re navigating menopause-related overwhelm specifically, pairing breath with gentle body awareness, what’s called somatic breathwork, tends to address both the physical and emotional layers at once.

When to Go Gentler, Not Stronger

A general rule I give every new client: start gentler than you think you need. You can always build intensity later, once trust and safety are established. You can rarely walk back to a session that moved too fast for your body. If you have a history of heart conditions, seizures, severe panic disorder, or you’re pregnant, stick to the gentlest practices, like belly breathing or box breathing, and loop in your coach or medical provider before trying anything more active.

You’re Always In Control

The most important thing to know before you start: you are never required to push through discomfort in breathwork. Every practice can be paused, slowed, or stopped. Some sensations, tingling, warmth, a little lightheadedness, are normal and temporary. If something feels like too much, that’s information, not failure.

If you’re curious what a guided version of this feels like with real support behind it, that’s exactly what a Breathwork session or Mini Session is built for. You don’t need any experience, special equipment, or a particular level of flexibility. You just need to be willing to notice your breath, and let it do what it already knows how to do.