Breathwork 101: A Beginner’s Guide To Finding The Right Practice For Your Nervous System

Breathwork Doesn’t Have to Be Intense Work

When people hear “breathwork”, they often picture something intense: crying on a mat, dramatic emotional release, maybe even a little frightening. That version exists, but it’s one small slice of a much bigger picture. Most of the breathwork I use with clients, especially in a first session, is quiet, simple, and almost boring in the best possible way. That’s by design.

Start Here: Belly Breathing

If you try nothing else from this post, try this. Sit or lie down comfortably. Put one hand on your chest and one on your belly. Inhale slowly through your nose for a count of four, letting your belly rise more than your chest. Exhale through your mouth for a count of six, letting the exhale be longer than the inhale. That’s it. This single pattern, sometimes called diaphragmatic or belly breathing, is one of the fastest ways to signal safety to your nervous system, and it’s appropriate for nearly everyone, with almost no risk.

Matching The Practice To The Need

Different breathwork styles do different things, and part of what I help clients with is matching the practice to what they’re actually feeling, rather than reaching for whatever’s trending. If you’re anxious or can’t settle, a slow, steady rhythm of about five to six breaths per minute, sometimes called coherent or resonant breathing, tends to be more effective than trying to force calm through willpower alone. If your mind won’t stop racing at bedtime, a soft humming exhale (bee breath or Bhramari) can be a surprisingly effective closing practice. If you’re navigating menopause-related overwhelm specifically, pairing breath with gentle body awareness, what’s called somatic breathwork, tends to address both the physical and emotional layers at once.

When to Go Gentler, Not Stronger

A general rule I give every new client: start gentler than you think you need. You can always build intensity later, once trust and safety are established. You can rarely walk back to a session that moved too fast for your body. If you have a history of heart conditions, seizures, severe panic disorder, or you’re pregnant, stick to the gentlest practices, like belly breathing or box breathing, and loop in your coach or medical provider before trying anything more active.

You’re Always In Control

The most important thing to know before you start: you are never required to push through discomfort in breathwork. Every practice can be paused, slowed, or stopped. Some sensations, tingling, warmth, a little lightheadedness, are normal and temporary. If something feels like too much, that’s information, not failure.

If you’re curious what a guided version of this feels like with real support behind it, that’s exactly what a Breathwork session or Mini Session is built for. You don’t need any experience, special equipment, or a particular level of flexibility. You just need to be willing to notice your breath, and let it do what it already knows how to do.